This Weekly Me is delving further into the concept… to be who we are we need to feel who we are. For this one we’re focusing on the emotions that we feel as we go about our lives and how it can effect who we are.
When we’re happy we’re quick to smile and laugh and share it with those around us. How many of us though suddenly feel the urge to limit the happiness? We think that something bad is going to happen just around the corner because we’re feeling too good.
At the other end we’re sad and long to be alone and lack the energy to do much of anything. If we’re lucky we can let the tears flow but how many of us try resisting the sadness? Doing anything we can so as not to feel it too intently out of fear of what will happen.
Whether we’re happy or sad many of us are afraid to let ourselves completely feel either of these emotions. But what we don’t always see is that when we limit the feeling we are not being completely who we’re meant to be. We’re holding ourselves back.
There was only one time in my life where I feel that I mastered the art of feeling both happy and sad at the same time and reveling in those emotions. It was when my dad was losing the battle to pancreatic cancer. It might sound a bit dramatic or morbid to you but for me it was the most beautiful year of my life. Knowing that he was not going to make it much longer was especially sad. Yet to be present in the moment and be fully alive, I had to feel it; let it settle deep within me. At the same time, knowing that I still had time with him to talk, to hear his voice and hold his hand made me so happy. There was no pretending with him during this time. I felt the strong need to be me and of course that meant all the emotions came along with it. Looking back on it though this is why it was so beautiful.
The challenge moving forward is to continue to embrace the emotion whichever it is and not let the fear creep its way in. When I’m feeling on top of the world I make sure to smile and laugh as much as I can and just be happy. When I’m sad I take the time to let it sink in and feel it without resistance. I let it out through my tears or just going with it until it passes.
There is a beautiful poem written by Kahlil Gibran called A Tear and a Smile that speaks so clearly as to how I want my life to be from here on out. “I would not exchange the sorrows of my heart for the joys of the multitude. And I would not have the tears that sadness makes to flow from my every part turn into laughter. I would that my life remain a tear and a smile. A tear to unite me with those of broken heart; a smile to be a sign of my joy in existence.”
I wish the same for all of you.
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Until next time…
Devoted to Me begins with me and continues to you. Accept it. Pass it on.